Starting Small With Your No

So many of us (especially the ones who keep the peace, carry the weight, and hold it all together) grew up learning to hope that people would just know what we needed, without ever having to say it.

But here is the painful truth: no one can honor a boundary that is never spoken out loud.

And I know (all too well) it feels vulnerable to name what is not okay, especially when you are used to being the one who absorbs, accommodates, and makes it work.

But you are allowed to have limits. You are allowed to say no. And you do not owe anyone a long explanation.

If you are the one people always count on... I see how heavy that gets. How lonely it can feel to be the one who never needs anything. How easy it is to feel guilty or selfish when you start to ask for more.

You are not selfish.

You are human.

And your needs matter too.

Start small. Say no to something tiny. Check in with yourself. Get honest about what feels okay and what does not.

Boundaries are not about pushing people away—they are how we stay connected without abandoning ourselves.

It is okay if it feels awkward at first. That is not a sign you are doing it wrong—it is a sign you are practicing something new.

You are allowed to take up space here.

You do not have to earn rest, love, or care. You are already worthy of all of it.

If this resonated with you and you’re ready to start prioritizing your own needs—whether that's practicing boundaries or seeking support—you are not alone.

I offer Florida virtual therapy and local in-person support in Vero Beach, designed specifically for caretakers, high-achieving problem-solvers, perfectionists, and people-pleasers.

Let’s reconnect you with your own voice and boundaries—schedule a free consultation.